Do you really know what it is you’re afraid of?
Some friends and I are reading through the Four Hour Workweek (re-reading for me, as I’ve read it a few times through). In one of the chapters, the author asks the question “What is it that you are really afraid of”.
I have no idea?! I’m just stuck in a rut!
Ever feel that way? So many things on your mind, so many messes to take care of, that you just can’t figure out where to start?
What is it that’s standing in the way of you from being able to do what you WANT to do?
1 word – Fear.
Stepping out into the unknown for many of us is perhaps the scariest thing we could do. However, there is a remedy – fear setting. (If you have not bought this book yet, please click the link above and buy it. This will make much more sense after you cover the “Defining the nightmare” chapter)
Through fear-setting and imagining, and then writing down the worst-case scenarios of many of my hair-brained schemes, many wonders have taken place.
Just the process alone of putting pen to paper (or in my case fingers to keyboard) to “brain vomit” all that scares me about possible outcomes of decisions is worth the time. Once I actually expressed in writing what it was that I was most afraid of, it didn’t really seem that fearful anymore. To take it a step further and to really be transparent, I showed some of my written fears to other people. The response from them was equally incredible. “You’re afraid of THAT?!? Dude, that would NEVER happen to you, you’re way to smart/cool/good looking/confident/did-I-mention-smart? (Ok, I added those adjectives in, but you get the point, right?) to have any of that happen to you!” – This is also why it’s smart to surround yourself with good friends who care enough about you to BOTH uplift you and tell you the brutal, hard truth when it matters.
It’s one thing to be able to just think about what scares you, but to actually write it down takes a much deeper level of thought. If you’ve read the book and missed this step, I challenge you to go back and take it one question at a time. If you want help, hit me up and I will help you out with it. Have fun scaring yourself!
“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.” – Mark Twain