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Three questions

If you could choose to be doing anything, what would you be doing?

If you could be anywhere, where would you be?

If you could be anyone, who would you be? (This is a type of person, not a specific person)

Terrifying answers

Wow, what to do next? Those types of questions are one that not many people focus on often. If you dare to answer them, be careful, the answers might just scare you…into action.

These are the questions that I asked myself over a year ago which led me down a wild path that is still continuing today. If money were not a problem, what would you be doing? Who would you be? Where would you be?

My Progress Report

The purpose of this post is to encourage. You, me, and everyone else that may be asking themselves these types of questions.

I’d like to post something on here that I’ve never thought about until today. In a recent conversation with a friend, he asked me many of these questions that I’ve listed above. It got me to thinking about January of this year (2010), and when I first seriously filled out the 4HWW Dreamline Sheet. I’d like to share that with you in just a moment.

This is a big step for me in seeking to become more transparent with my community online. When I first started in this journey online (shortly after leaving my job in February), I had no idea about any of this stuff. Twitter made no sense to me (as it probably still doesn’t to some of you), I had no idea how to use WordPress, and Facebook was really all I knew of the Internet. Now, almost 8 months later, I’ve learned that real relationships can be made online, and that people are still just as valuable “digitally” as they are in person.

While this journey was started in my own mind and soul, it has been propelled along by a group of like-minded friends. As it has been said before on this blog, DON’T GO THE COURSE ALONE! It’s pretty hard to take fun seriously if you’re doing it by yourself. Playing solitaire gets boring after a while. Playing poker is much more fun, because you’re doing it with other people. Get the illustration?

That being said, I want to take you back to the beginning. I filled out this dreamline sheet shortly after my birthday, after once again asking myself the big 3 questions listed above. Less than 4 weeks later I left my job. I hope that this will encourage you. Click on the image to see the full-sized version:

Now, as you can see, some of the goals listed on there aren’t very measurable. When I make my second 6-month sheet (which will be very soon!), I’ll be doing things that can be measured a little better. “Athletic build” isn’t something that can be defined very easily. Example: I have the “athletic build” of a runner, but not of an MMA fighter. If the latter is my goal, and not the former, then I haven’t really reached the goal. Make sense?

Even though the goals aren’t defined perfectly, there’s one step that took place in all of this that so few actually do: I wrote something down, and then immediately acted upon it! My good friend and mentor, Nathan, has said this one to me a few times: “It’s hard to steer a parked car”. Lemme ‘splain that for a second. Folks are always spouting this one off while I’m within earshot – “I want to do _____ (life event), but I just don’t have ______ (resource, time, ability, etc.) to do it”. This makes me want to punch small animals every time I hear it! So many people dismiss potential life-changing opportunities simply based upon nothing but their own pre-conceived assumptions! And you know what happens when we assume, don’t you? They never actually act upon any of these ideas, to see if their assumptions are just a farse. This is very frustrating (not only for me,  but for them as well!). It leaves them in a constant state of disapproval with the status-quo (a good thing), but they’re paralyzed by their own inability to ACT to test it out (a very, very, very bad thing!).

What to do?

Two quotes that inspire me like no other:

“Do one thing every day that scares you” – Anonymous

Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement, on the other hand, fertilize fear.” – Dr. David Schwartz, The Magic of Thinking BIG

Just Do It!

Action is the cure for fear! Ever been afraid of something, only to find out that after you did it, there wasn’t really much to be afraid of at all? I know I sure have!

Example: I’m afraid of heights, and of water where I can’t see the bottom. If I let that fear paralyze me and did NOT act, then I would have missed out on a fun time like this one:

Me swinging off of the "rope swing of doom" - NY's Adirondack Mountain Range

*NOTE – I went back and did this rope swing about 200 more times after this. Funny, the fear of the rope breaking, the sharks eating me (sharks in a NY freshwater lake?? C’mon you weirdo…), and the impact of the fall on the water breaking all of my bones just somehow didn’t materialize…*

It’s YOUR time to shine!

Now time for some practical steps from the “Fun Coach” (That would  be me…I’m thinking of using this as my mantra. Lemme know what you think in the comments below!). Here’s how you can get started on your path to greatness.

  1. Take a while to unplug from all distractions, and seriously ask yourself the 3 deep questions listed at the beginning of this post.
  2. Fill out the dreamline sheet, with no longer than a 6-month out projection.
  3. Find someone that is willing to keep you accountable: Be it a mentor, friend, spouse, or relative. (The more the better, this is something I was late to the party to get on board with. It really helps!)
  4. Pick points along the way to check yourself to make sure you’re on target. Set Google reminders, and make sure to fill out the right-hand side of the sheet, where it gives practical steps to to today, tomorrow, and the next day.
  5. The most important step – Begin!
  6. Final step – Give me a call. Seriously. Leave a message with your # and we’ll talk. This stuff fires me up because I know how much fun it is to really act upon it!

  7. (This widget is also on the right-hand side of my blog. I’m serious about hearing from you!)

There’s much more that we could talk about to this process, but for now, let’s stop here. The point of all of this is to get started.

Make mistakes, fail forward, and keep on truckin’. It’s worth it to getting your goals and dreams!

Oh, and one more thing I almost forgot – the journey itself is just as much fun as reaching the goal is 🙂

See you in the comments 🙂

– JC

Header image: Badruddeen


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