This post has potential to break out into a multi-post plethora of information that will (hopefully) lead you to ACTION. What you and I will need to make this happen is some interaction.
Starting the engine with a little “ether”
Negative can get things moving, positive can keep them moving
Much like the above example with the engine, ether, and gasoline, your ideas need to have some fuel and spark to get them off the ground.
The “ether” in this case can be any type of negative influence: I hate my job. I hate my boss. I hate this commute. I hate the “office politics”. I’VE GOTTA GET OUTTA HERE!!!
But just like the above example, the engine of your idea CANNOT run on negative “ether” alone. It requires a positive “gasoline” to keep things moving. In my own personal example, it was the goal of being able to be home with my family to raise my girls and be with my wife. For you, it may be working for charity, getting more involved in the lives of your friends, family, or even those less fortunate than you. Coaching, teaching, helping, whatever. Things you would do in your free time that aren’t just “time killers”.
Speaking from experience, when you first leave your job, the immense wave of relief is incredible. It really is! Being able to wake up when you want, and do what you want is amazing!
However, I can relate to why most retirees end up going nuts after their first few weeks and months into retirement. All of a sudden, the vacation mindset wears off, and they’re left being bored doing the “relaxing” things they dreamt about for so many years. They’ve removed their distress, and now are left with a gaping void. A gaping void that can only be satisfied with eustress.
Starting the fire
Just because negative emotion isn’t enough to sustain your goal (or dream), that doesn’t mean that we still can’t use it to our advantage. Look at this stack of books that I read over a year ago that helped lead me to my decision. At least 3 of them and their accompanying subtitles appeal to someone who hates what they’re currently doing:
Why would the authors choose a title like “Why WORK SUCKS (and how to fix it)”, “ESCAPE from Cubicle Nation“, and the first subtitle of the 4HWW, “Escape 9-5“? Easy – Because it appeals to an audience looking to get out! It’s not a bad thing.
Many people are dissatisfied (yeah right, that’s maybe the most sterile way of putting it) with their current job. The difference between THEM and YOU however, is that you’re prone to actually ACT upon this motivation. Anybody can complain. Ramit Sethi, author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich (shown above) says “people love to debate and talk about minutiae”. It’s easy to complain, and it’s easy to find people that will complain along with you.
However, if you’ve read this far, you’re not the simple complainer. You’re somebody who is actually looking, planning (and soon will be DOING) to make a difference in your life and the lives of those around you.
Keeping the fire going
I’m going to wrap up today’s post with just some simple questions, and based on your feedback, It’ll help to see where we head next.
What is the bigger-than-yourself idea or goal that you have that can sustain this wild idea of you embarking away from your comfort zone and keep the fire burning hot? If you KNEW you could not fail, what would you be doing?
And finally, maybe the one that breaks it down into the most simple and easiest to process: What does your dream day look like? (Josh Buisch asked me this recently, and actually answering this question with someone else listening had quite a profound effect on my motivation and vision. Give it a try!)
You don’t have to answer any of these questions publicly, but if you do, know that you’ll have a big group of people helping to keep you accountable.
Talk to y’all soon!